{"id":2641,"date":"2022-08-20T16:27:37","date_gmt":"2022-08-20T16:27:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kaciapaskaicius.lt\/?p=2641"},"modified":"2022-08-20T16:29:28","modified_gmt":"2022-08-20T16:29:28","slug":"brene-brown-atlas-of-the-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kaciapaskaicius.lt\/?p=2641","title":{"rendered":"Brene Brown. Atlas of the Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Kai sutiktas, seniai nematytas draugas, tav\u0119s paklausia, kaip tau sekasi, ar da\u017enai pasirenki vien\u0105 i\u0161 \u0161i\u0173 atsakym\u0173:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u3030\ufe0f gerai,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u3030\ufe0f normaliai,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u3030\ufe0f visai neblogai,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u3030\ufe0f puikiai?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O tada kai paklausia, kaip dabar jautiesi, da\u017enas \u017emogus atpa\u017e\u012fsta vos kelias pagrindines emocijas: li\u016bdesys, nerimas, laim\u0117, na, kartais dar nusivylimas ar baim\u0117. M\u016bs\u0173 jausm\u0173 \u017eodynas neretai yra toks skurdus, kad i\u0161 ties\u0173 atspindi negeb\u0117jim\u0105 atskirti ir suprasti savo pa\u010di\u0173 emocijas. Prisipa\u017eink, juk b\u016bna toki\u0173 b\u016bsen\u0173, kuomet negali suprasti, k\u0105 i\u0161 ties\u0173 jauti. Ar tai tik moteri\u0161kas bruo\u017eas? \ud83e\udd14\ud83d\ude05<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Brene Brown savo naujausioje knygoje \u201eAtlas of the Heart\u201c pasineria \u012f \u012fvairiausi\u0173 spalv\u0173 jausm\u0173 paletes ir remdamasi moksliniais tyrimais nagrin\u0117ja \u012fvairias \u017emoni\u0173 emocijas. Juk nat\u016bralu, kad negalime susitvarkyti su tomis emocijomis, kuri\u0173 n\u0117 neatpa\u017e\u012fstame savo viduje. Nor\u0117\u010diau paliesti vos kelet\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Perfekcionizmas<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Tai m\u016bs\u0173 galimybi\u0173 \u017eudikas. \u0160i emocija ne retai u\u017ekerta keli\u0105 \u012f bet kok\u012f augim\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><em>\u201ePerfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfectly and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.&#8221;<\/em><\/p><cite>B,Brown<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Perfekcionizmas &#8211; sav\u0119s saugojimas nuo negatyvi\u0173 jausm\u0173 ar pasekmi\u0173. K\u016br\u0117jas yra pa\u017eeid\u017eiamas. Jame gimusi id\u0117ja \u012fgauna k\u016bn\u0105 ir tada kiekvienas, kartais ir ne su pa\u010diais \u0161variausiais pir\u0161tais, j\u0105 ap\u017ei\u016brin\u0117ja, \u010diupin\u0117ja, palikdamas d\u0117mes, kurios v\u0117liau gali skaud\u0117ti. Kas nutinka kai leid\u017eiame sau b\u016bti perfekcionistais?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><em>\u201eLIFE PARALYSIS\u201c refers to all of the opportunities we miss because we&#8217;re too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect.\u201c <\/em><\/p><cite>B. Brown<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><br>\ud83d\udca1Tuomet a\u0161 pagalvojau:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>\u3030\ufe0fTobulumas &#8211; nuobodu. Mus traukia tai, kas savita, autenti\u0161ka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>\u3030\ufe0fBijome, k\u0105 \u017emon\u0117s pagalvos, nors jie apie mus galvoja taip retai, jog tai su\u017einoj\u0119, net \u012fsi\u017eeistume.<br><br>\u3030\ufe0fPo m\u016bs\u0173, m\u016bs\u0173 nebebus. B\u016bkime \u010dia ir dabar, netobuli, bet laimingi ir k\u016brybi\u0161ki.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>\u3030\ufe0fTai kas tobula man, gali b\u016bti visi\u0161ka nes\u0105mon\u0117 tau. Tobulumas &#8211; iliuzija.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><em>\u201eIn the world where perfectionism, pleasing and proving are used as armour to protect our egos and our feelings, it takes a lot of courage to show up an be all in when we can&#8217;t control the outcome.\u201c<\/em><\/p><cite>B. Brown<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>\ud83e\udd0d Vienintel\u0117 gyvenimo prabanga, kuri yra visiems prieinama vienodai &#8211; tai laikas. Leiskime j\u012f kurdami tai, kas esame mes. Kuo daugiau sieksime \u012ftikti, tuo ma\u017eiau akimirk\u0173 liks b\u016bti savimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/kaciapaskaicius.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/20220703_191437-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2644\" width=\"507\" height=\"676\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Schadenfreude<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Schadenfreude \u2013emocija, kuri privert\u0117 mane rimtai susim\u0105styti. \u0160is \u017eodis yra kil\u0119s i\u0161 vokie\u010di\u0173 kalbos, lietuvi\u0173 \u017eodyne mes neturime jam vieno \u017eod\u017eio atitikmens. Kaip j\u012f ai\u0161kina Brene Brown?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eSchadenfreude is compound from German words schaden meaning harm, and freude, meaning joy. So, schadenfreude means pleaseure or joy derived from someone else&#8217;s suffering or misfortune.\u201c<\/p><cite>B. Brown<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Kiekvienam i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 pasitaik\u0117 akimirk\u0173, kai pastebime, jog \u017emon\u0117s d\u017eiaugiasi d\u0117l kit\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 nelaim\u0117s. Kas \u017eino, galb\u016bt ka\u017ekada ir mes pabuvome tais \u017emon\u0117mis? Mano po\u017ei\u016briu, tai baisi emocija, kuri nuodija jau\u010diant\u012fj\u012f bei nuodija kiekvien\u0105, kur\u012f pasiekia \u0161i intencija.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ar vieno nelaim\u0117 gali pati kito d\u017eiaugsmu? Ar toks \u017emogaus po\u017ei\u016bris rei\u0161kia, kad jis stokoja empatijos?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nemalonu pripa\u017einti, kad pasitaiko atvej\u0173, kai \u017emon\u0117s siekdami pakilti auk\u0161\u010diau dergia kitus \u017emones ir mano, jog taip tampa prana\u0161esni. Tai man primena puik\u0173 posak\u012f, jog ne\u012fmanoma pa\u017eeminti kito \u017emogaus, pirmiausia nepa\u017eeminant sav\u0119s. Schadenfreude emocija tai atspindi, nes galimyb\u0117 d\u017eiaugtis kito nes\u0117kme rei\u0161kia, jog tuo metu \u017emogus jau\u010diasi prana\u0161esnis. Nuostabu, jei galime i\u0161sivalyti i\u0161 toki\u0173 emocij\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Kokia nauda i\u0161 to, jog pa\u017einsime pla\u010di\u0105 jausm\u0173 palet\u0119?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Susipa\u017eindami su jausmais, mes susipa\u017e\u012fstame su savimi. Jei ne\u017einome, k\u0105 jau\u010diame, mes negalime to \u012fvardinti nei sau, nei kitiems. Juk kartais galime jaustis \u012fpyk\u0119, jog sutuoktinis, susid\u0117j\u0119s kojas ant ku\u0161et\u0117s, \u017ei\u016bri televizori\u0173, kai tuo tarpu j\u016bs plu\u0161ate virtuv\u0117je ir tuo pat metu bandote pamaitinti vaik\u0105. Ta\u010diau ar tikrai tai pyktis? Galb\u016bt tai pavydas, jog negalite sau leisti elgtis taip, kaip sutuoktinis? O galb\u016bt tai tiesiog nuovargis, nes beveik nemiegojote 3-\u010di\u0105 par\u0105 i\u0161 eil\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Net ir tokiose \u201eplonyb\u0117se\u201c slypi emocij\u0173 sluoksniai. Mes galime jas lupti kaip svog\u016bn\u0105, kol prisikasime iki \u0161erdies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Bren\u00e9 Brown&#039;s Life Advice on Emotions Will Leave You Speechless\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-aU6T-ed1eI?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Apie autor\u0119<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Brene Brown \u2013 profesor\u0117, d\u0117stytoja, knyg\u0173 autor\u0117, TED prane\u0161\u0117ja. Ji yra \u017eym\u012f, nes ilgus metus nagrin\u0117ja g\u0117dos, pa\u017eeid\u017eiamumo ir lyderyst\u0117s temas. Tai jau 10-ta \u0161ios autor\u0117s knyga. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/kaciapaskaicius.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/brene-brown-1552917409-714x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2642\" width=\"278\" height=\"399\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Jei dar neskaitei, nepaprastai rekomenduoju \u201e<a href=\"https:\/\/kaciapaskaicius.lt\/?p=664\">Didi dr\u0105sa<\/a>\u201c knyg\u0105, apie \u017emogaus pa\u017eeid\u017eiamum\u0105 ir kokios nuostabios asmenyb\u0117s galimyb\u0117s atsiskleid\u017eia, jei \u012fveikiame baim\u0119, tokiais b\u016bti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Pa\u017eink save<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Brene Brown knyga \u201eAtlas of the Heart\u201c yra tiems, kurie nori b\u016bti dar labiau empati\u0161ki, kurie mano, jog emocijos yra tai, kas padeda mums suprasti save ir kitus. Nenud\u017eiuginsiu, nes net pati autor\u0117 teigia, kad da\u017enu atveju ne\u012fmano suprasti, k\u0105 jau\u010dia kitas \u017emogus, kol jis to ne\u012fvardija. Ta\u010diau \u017einojimas ir gal\u0117jimas identifikuoti emocijas yra EQ\/emocinio intelekto bruo\u017eas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rekomenduoju \u0161i\u0105 knyg\u0105, siekiantiems pa\u017einti save ir atrasti savyje nauj\u0173 sluoksi\u0173.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kai sutiktas, seniai nematytas draugas, tav\u0119s paklausia, kaip tau sekasi, ar da\u017enai pasirenki vien\u0105 i\u0161 \u0161i\u0173 atsakym\u0173: \u3030\ufe0f gerai, \u3030\ufe0f normaliai, \u3030\ufe0f visai neblogai, \u3030\ufe0f puikiai? O tada kai paklausia, kaip dabar jautiesi, da\u017enas \u017emogus atpa\u017e\u012fsta vos kelias pagrindines emocijas: li\u016bdesys, nerimas, laim\u0117, na, kartais dar nusivylimas ar baim\u0117. 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